Obsession and Television

I manage a lot of groups on Facebook for TV shows I like.  I couldn’t possibly have a group for every show I like since  I admit to watching a lot of TV as well as movies. It is my favorite form of entertainment. But I do have quite a few.  I have seen so many shows get cancelled  in my life and have gotten used to it. It happens. I will never understand why networks end shows on a cliffhanger. If the powers that be know the ratings  are bad and that they will likely cancel, couldn’t they give the writers a heads up to wrap it up? I read an article about the show Revenge, which will likely be cancelled, the ratings are not great and quality has gone down, but I digress. The options are; to tie up so many loose ends that they have very little to do (should it surprise me and be renewed) or leave the show on a cliffhanger and anger fans if it gets cancelled. What are the writers, producers and everyone to do? I am glad it is not my job to figure that out.

I don’t like it when my shows are canceled. Who does? And I rarely forget. Firefly, Homefront, American Dreams, Dr Quinn Medicine Woman, The Secret Circle,  and Revolution just to name a few. Some had good ratings but got cancelled anyway. That’s a risk you take when you watch a show. It may abruptly end. I have seen people say “well I just shouldn’t watch new shows.”  But I watch what I want and always will.  Even if I find the show on a site like Netflix  and know it ended abruptly I may  watch it anyway. (Who am I kidding, I will watch it anyway.)  Because I like TV and because I would rather see it and know I saw it and had the experience than let things I can’t control rule me. Life won’t end either way, but if everyone out there had that attitude, no shows will make it ever and eventually I would run out of things to watch if I boycotted every new show.

All of that being said what I wont do is throw a fit every time  some show gets cancelled. I will not take to Twitter and rail about how I will never watch that network again. For me that’s  the equivalent of a toddler throwing themselves on the ground having a tantrum. I will not launch a campaign of Save my show and start a FB page and dedicate my life to said show. Nope, I will  move on with my life. Which brings me to my point, why do people do these things? It makes little sense to me. I have a few groups on FB for shows that were cancelled and the incessant whining is so irritating. Yes it ended on a cliffhanger but the world will still carry on, your world will not end.  It’s not even that I have failed to get attached.  I too find it terribly unfair when a show ends if it had good ratings or if a bad time slot was the cause or lack of marketing. Although sometimes the reason is unknown and will never be known. Other times it is easy to see if fans faced reality. I also don’t mind signing the occasional petition or making a call to bring it back. I firmly believe in letting your voice be heard and there is nothing wrong with letting a TV network know you are displeased.  But I draw the line at obsession. A lot of these campaigns are launched for shows that were sub par really. Not all mind you and that’s subjective, I know. If people dedicated themselves to things that matter in life, really matter, like homelessness. hunger, disease, poverty, clean drinking water, women’s rights,  etc imagine what change could be possible. But, instead, people pledge  themselves to things as trivial as saving a television show. I have been told TV means different things to different  people and I get that.  But if TV is more to you than entertainment and you feel like your life ended because show xyz ended maybe it is time to change your life? Of course the same applies to the campaigns to save a show. If it fails, and lets face it, it more than likely will, what then? Your life is over. But it’s not. A show nor a campaign to save it, should ever  be your entire life. Because if 1 show ends watch something else. Move on. Understand that TV is a business and if a show ends there is a reason. Once in a while a show does get saved so I am not saying it’s impossible just unlikely.  Longmire, for instance, was recently saved. Everyone has the right to do what they like with their lives, and I understand passionately liking a show, but please keep the whining to yourself.

The Internet- The Irrational Absurdity And Oversharing

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I realize the absurdness of criticizing the internet while I am in fact writing a blog post on the internet but when has being slightly absurd ever stopped me? What follows is going to be a whole lot of complaints, whining and pet peeves so if that bugs you I guess read no further!

At what point in our history did people start going online to report their every little activity and movement,every thought, opinion and criticism of other people and oh so many personal details of their lives? For me things like twitter promote rampant narcissism and that bugs me. The idea that its ok to go online and trash other people and the concept that everyone cares about your every thought. Yes the same can be said about blogs thus I realize the slight absurdness of my complaint but that’s ok, gonna roll with it. Celebrities do it, creating Instagrams, Twitters, Tumblers, Facebooks and whatever other things are popular now. I sort of get that. They want their fans to know what projects they have and to get people to tune in, listen or go watch their movies. They do make a living off of that. Some celebrities are not above tearing their fans to shreds. For instance Rihanna. I don’t use Twitter. I prefer to say I don’t Twit and I don’t. But I have seen numerous articles quoting the times she has harshly torn into 1 of her fans. Yes her fans. The people who made her rich. And why? My guess is she just likes to be bitchy. I used to really like her songs until I heard that. I read 1 article about how she completely shredded 1 young fan who copied 1 of her outfits. I thought wow how mean to do that and unnecessary. All of this is sort of my point though. People, celebrities and your average nobody,  feel as if that’s okay to do. To go online and rip apart people, say anything they feel like under the safety or anonymity of being online. Things the majority of us would never ever say to a persons face but they will say it online as if it is acceptable. I try not to do that because I remember there is a person on the other end of that electronic device and I grew up with the Golden Rule. But for those who think its okay, it really isn’t.

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That bring me to my next issue, over sharing. Telling people your every thought, feeling, and personal issue and the pictures (oh my) as if  tons of selfies validates you and your self-worth in life. Which I realize for some, it does. How sad is that? Sometimes it is people who claim to be a Christian but then talk behind your back. If I am really your friend I won’t say something awful behind your back. The amount of followers you have does not define you nor validate you.oversharing 2

The internet is not a safe place. For people who feel the need to share personal info on sites like Facebook I urge caution. Facebook will try to get you to. They ask me to update my profile all the time. To share more and more stuff. It takes such a small amount of information for some crazy person to seek you out in real life and it has happened. You don’t always know who you are talking to on social media.

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The know it alls. Everything you say they will criticize and analyze. If you ask a question be prepared for not just 1 person with the right answer to follow but many for just 1 was not enough I suppose. This is a huge problem for public forums on the majority of articles out there that allow comments as well as public pages. If you have anything to share that they disagree with or is not 100% butt kissing be prepared for an onslaught bigger than a Titanic sized wave because it will follow. Some people are so opinionated and long winded too. They will leave comments on pages that are more like a book and if you ever private message this sort of person you will be there all day reading their dissertations. Being long-winded doesn’t make you right. It just makes you a blow hard. Also overly analyzing every little thing is sort of annoying. Every time a show airs that I like I see it, in my groups or on articles I read. Sometimes a show or movie is just entertainment. Every little miniscule thing does not mean you uncovered a hidden clue.  Yes some producers and writers like to do that. But not all, and analyzing everything to death sort of makes you a bore. At the same time some of us refuse to do that, and it doesn’t make us less intelligent either. I know big words but I also value my time too much. Some of us know that as adults our minds are made up so discussing endlessly is rather pointless. I also see people who leave such long comments and think their personality is cute or hard-edged when it’s really just bitchy and irritating. I try to remind people in my Facebook groups that not everyone is there for a long discussion. What if you just want to say your piece in as few words as possible and move on? I rarely feel the need to spell out my every thought, I instead think most are smart enough to read between the lines. Of course maybe that is my mistake, but that’s ok.

The internet is so full of immature people. You never know who you are talking to, if it is really a kid. But sometimes it is an adult who acts like a child. Throwing a fit at everything and blowing up just because they can.

The point of all of this is not just because I like to bitch (although I do), it is to remind that while the internet is full of wonder, and information, and I am not sure I could be without it, it is also full of, well people. So watch what you say and where you say it. Remember the person on the other side is just that, a person. It’s not necessary to say our every thought out loud and that includes our typed words.

What I have learned on FaceBook this week.

Unfortunate Life Lessons to be learned on Facebook. 

I won’t go into everything that happened because most wont know what I am talking about at all. The bottom line is the things I learned are a direct result. Don’t trust people on FB and don’t trust Whitney Bell, Daniela Curatolo Galletta, and September Angel, this post is all about them. They should be ashamed of themselves, I mean really ashamed for not only how they acted but how they treated me. That being said, read on so you know what lessons you need if you use the FaceBook site.

1. People will do all kinds of wrong behaviors and tell other people off if they do the same things but should you ever need to ask them to stop, they act offended and martyr themselves for their other friends who believe the fake act. Never bother with this sort of person, the how dare you say that attitude makes them fake. Bad behaviors are ok for them so no need to be friends with people like that. Good people will take responsibility for how they acted, those are the people you want. People are backstabbers and hypocrites.

  2. People like to claim to be a Christian, actions speak louder than words for me when it comes to that. If you use the words but your actions show otherwise please stay away.

 3. There are 2 sides to every story, always. Most never bother getting both sides. They will believe the loudest person. The quiet person who doesn’t spread their problems all over FB will never be heard, listened to and no one will even ask. The loud person is covering though for wrong behavior, they are often passive aggressive and will make it seem like they are such a great person. They will lie and leave out every important detail. They will misconstrue every detail and never ever say what they in fact did. For every person you see like this, wonder what they did that they feel they need to make a public spectacle all the time.

 4. Don’t trust anyone. You can’t. People will be nice to your face while stabbing you in the back. People will claim to be on your side but the entire time working against you.

5. People will take credit for what you accomplished and get rid of you as soon as they can.

6. No one cares about your problems. The stuff you are quiet about and don’t broadcast. It is a social site so you think they care, but they don’t.

7. If you ever have an issue most likely Facebook will do nothing to help you. Even if the situation is completely wrong and unfair you have no recourse. None at all.

 After saying all that, I am there for my friends who want to talk. I will listen and not judge. I wont call you names. I completely understand that games, shows, groups, favorite hobby pages and the internet are an escape from real life problems, sometimes very serious problems. Those issues are what  matter. Most don’t care what those issues are and will just make fun of you if you mention it, but I wouldn’t. So for everyone who has ever had people  on FB pretend to be their friend and then crap all over you, know that not everyone is like that. I am not. The people mentioned above and many others, are.